Our time in the primary school did not always go as we had hoped. Both our children had multiple teachers during their respective seven-year journeys. As much as we were disappointed by this, we can look back and see how these experiences with different teachers have offered opportunities for growth and the development of a sense of resilience. The primary school years were filled with excitement and angst as our children started learning and growing in their own unique ways. I so appreciated the long-term view that the teachers in the primary school hold about learning and development. Learning never felt rushed. The children were allowed to relate to the work in the way that made sense for them and to work at a gentle yet consistent pace. The thing I loved most about primary school was the year-end reports. Who can forget the 6-page handwritten reports from Mrs Blankers! These reports were more than just feedback on academics and learning. They told the story of how adults saw and experienced our children. What a gift! I have kept all the reports and hope that one day my children will be able to read these again and appreciate afresh the gifts that their Waldorf education offered.
This Michael Oak community, as with any family, is filled with its quirks and challenges. As much as there have been moments of joy, there have been moments of annoyance and frustration. The democratic decision-making process within the school has at times felt so cumbersome and time-consuming. I am remembering a huge school meeting in the big hall a few years ago where the entire community was invited to give feedback on changes in the high school space. At these moments we often felt that someone just needed to please make a decision! But we sat and listened and heard and then some others sat some more and at some point, a decision gets made! Oh, the joys of circle management.
I have come to learn to hold the good with the bad as I reflect on our time at Michael Oak. The beauty of the many festivals we have witnessed and been part of. Each year the same but also unique and different. I have loved these rituals which marked the changes in the seasons or some significant spiritual moment. As much as these festivals are spaces of reverence there have been some wild moments. Like when a lantern caught alight in the St Johns Festival and Andre van Blerk grabbed the burning lantern with his bare hands! We just carried on with our singing while the poor man needed first aid for his second-degree burns!
Alphonso and I were privileged and honoured to serve this community in various roles. We are so grateful for the learning and growth which has resulted from this involvement. The experience that I most treasured was my time with the class 10 girls on the Coming-of-Age camps. Thank you, Kathy Abbott, for suggesting that I get involved with this camp. These camps offered an experience of a rites of passage process which was so rich and beautiful. On these camps I too experience my own rite of passage as woman and a mother. I will forever hold these spaces with reverence and awe.
And so, leaving feels bittersweet. We leave behind wonderful friends and a most beautiful school campus. But we hold on to the many memories and will treasure these always. Michael Oak has left its mark in our hearts and minds, and we are forever changed because of our time in this special community.
With love and gratitude
Alphonso, Helen, and Hannah (and Alex) Malgas